Saturday, February 27, 2010

The Forbidden Dream

Everyone has a dream. Unfortunately, not all are attainable. Well, perhaps I should not say it that way, rather not all are well pursued. A lot of us actually do not really know what we really like and what we really want to do in life. Sometimes, we do know what we really enjoy doing, but often do not really realize - or worst, afraid to admit - that it is our passion. There are many factors that can actually create this kind of "lost" feeling, but personally I think the root of all this is fear. Fear to be different. Fear to fail. Fear to leave our comfort zone - including to let go what we already have, leaving our safety net. Fear to hear what people have to say about us, about our decision. Basically it is all fear. Exactly like what I'm struggling with all this time even now. The only thing this fear does on us is pulling us down in our circle of routine and stopping us from dreaming.

Basil S. Walsh, once said, "If you don't know where you are going, how can you expect to get there?".

I think it is really straight forward, but it is indeed very true.

Another quotes it this way: "Shoot at the moon, even if you missed, you will still fall among the stars".

This is a pretty saying, isn't it? I really love it.

My profile says that I am a PhD in Materials Science, worked really hard to get this title, but now I am in the junction of real struggle. I have been feeling really lost for the past year, thinking what I really want and should do in my life, in terms of my career. I used to dream of becoming a professor in a good university, but now it is somewhat distorted by what I discovered about my love for cooking. It's now a dream of becoming a chef. I wonder if it is actually possible. I fear many things. I fear my parents. I fear to let go my title as a Doctor. I fear to fail and unable to come back to what I have right now. I fear to fail and do not have anything or anyone to fall back on. Some of my really good friends, keep on pushing me to dream, making decision and pursuing the dream. I know I have to do that, but it's really hard, because I fear to even think about making the decision. I don't know what to do. I really feel that it's actually a forbidden dream.

"Have faith in your dreams and someday your rainbow will come shining through. No matter how your heart is grieving, if you keep believing, the dream that you wish will come true".
~Anonymous.